Shirley Louise Patterson was born on July 22nd, 1933 in Rankin, Texas. She attended North Texas University, University of Kansas, and the University of Wisconsin - Madison, as well as the McCormick Theological Seminary. Patterson studied and taught in social work, specializing in Gerontology, or the study of aging. She held faculty teaching positions at the University of Kansas, University of Nevada - Las Vegas, and Arizona State University.

Much of Patterson's work focused on the dynamics of family and friends that care for the elderly and other people in their lives. She coined the term "natural helpers" to describe these relationships and taught courses in death and dying. Patterson was mentored by and worked with Carel Germain and Esther E. Twente. She also worked with Susan A. Cho, her partner, to edit two volumes of Turning Points in Womens' Lives and other works.

In 2005, Patterson moved to La Vida Llena Living Community in Albuquerque where she was recognized for her organization and her works. Patterson passed away on April 10th, 2018.